• Healthy Anger: This type of anger depends on the help and guidance of the Holy Spirit. Healthy anger allows people to invest their emotional energy in confronting evil, righting wrongs, and changing things for the good.
• Unhealthy Anger: When people allow anger to control them, it becomes unhealthy anger. It expresses itself in a desire for revenge and can easily distort one’s perspective, block the ability to love, and limit one’s capacity to think clearly. This leads to destructive actions such as emotional, verbal, or physical abuse and violence.

A Four Step Anger Management Plan:

1. Be Aware Of Your Anger: Identify what makes you vulnerable to anger, how your body responds to anger, and what physical manifestations of anger you adopt when you are enraged.
2. Accept Responsibility for Your Anger: Don’t blame others. Blaming a personal reaction on someone else is not accurate. People don’t lose their temper. They “choose” their own temper.
3. Identify the Source of Your Anger: Anger is a secondary emotion that is experienced in response to a primary emotion, such as a hurt, frustration, or fear. People who are hurt feel vulnerable to more hurt. For many anger is a defense mechanism against being hurt. Frustrations occur when expectations are not met or people cannot meet their personal goals.
4. Choose How To Invest Your Anger Energy: We cannot always control when we will experience anger, we can choose how we will express it. With God’s help, we can find creative and constructive ways to deal with anger. Quality anger involves open, honest, and direct communication.